I don't know quite what to say about this, except, I agree. I came to my current position from a 'merged' library and computing environment where I felt that same pressure. I can't say it affected me per se, since I managed to offend and upset both sides, but I saw it happening to other women, and I could see that there was definitely a double standard on what was ok for the males to do as opposed to the women.
Nowadays I'm in a great environment, but constantly terrified because I don't know what I can and cannot do with respect to my computing co-workers; after a year on the job, I was deputed to replace a popular and knowledgeable woman who was popular with the computing staff but not with all the library staff (because of her abrasive personality). My library co-workers don't really have a good sense of what is reasonable to expect, either, though. It's a challenge.
The best weapon in the misogynist aresenal seems to be to accuse women of being oversensitive, since it's a double layer attack/defense.
I don't like the proposed solution either, especially as it means I have to rely on people like you who have a lot more social skills than I to educate misogynists...
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I came to my current position from a 'merged' library and computing environment where I felt that same pressure. I can't say it affected me per se, since I managed to offend and upset both sides, but I saw it happening to other women, and I could see that there was definitely a double standard on what was ok for the males to do as opposed to the women.
Nowadays I'm in a great environment, but constantly terrified because I don't know what I can and cannot do with respect to my computing co-workers; after a year on the job, I was deputed to replace a popular and knowledgeable woman who was popular with the computing staff but not with all the library staff (because of her abrasive personality). My library co-workers don't really have a good sense of what is reasonable to expect, either, though. It's a challenge.
The best weapon in the misogynist aresenal seems to be to accuse women of being oversensitive, since it's a double layer attack/defense.
I don't like the proposed solution either, especially as it means I have to rely on people like you who have a lot more social skills than I to educate misogynists...